“Hold Off, So Is This a Date?”: A Queer Podcast about Dating | Autostraddle

Introducing
“Hold Off, So Is This A Romantic Date”
the podcast about queer relationship you won’t ever understood you always needed, hosted by myself, Christina, and Drew Gregory!

This podcast was given birth to of Drew and that I’s mutual passion for voice memos and strong talks about dating. We’ve been delivering one another voice memos for just over annually today, heading deep regarding situations received really loves about internet dating (men and women! enjoyable! flirting!) in addition to things I dislike about matchmaking (folks! Fun! Flirting!). We were having lots of fun, innovative, and insightful discussions and honestly, it appeared impolite to deny the greater general public ones!

Think of you as your friendly community co-hosts, directing you through awesome specific queer dating conundrums because truthfully, right online dating podcasts could never. Conundrums like: how will you flirt via IG tales? How do you take long, drawn out flirting one stage further? So what does it suggest to think everyone is into you? We’ll speak to a number of Autostraddle’s greatest article authors, perform some awesome particular video games, report on all of our pop music culture crushes of the moment as well as, you will need to answer the endless concern of your instances:

Wait…is this a date???

Tune in to the intro below and whet urge for food, after which smash that “subscribe” option wherever good podcasts are distributed, thus ensuring you a delightful August 11th, whenever the basic official occurrence falls!

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Drew:

Hi, I’m Drew.

Christina:

And I’m Christina. Referring to

Wait, Is It a night out together?

An Autostraddle podcast this is certainly specialized in the question, “Wait, is it a night out together?”

Drew:

I am very thrilled to discover.

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Christina:

Yeah. I believe we’ve been on a trip to discover just what are dates and just what are not dates, as friends, and in addition as a people, I believe.

Drew:

Yeah. As a people. Meaning, the queers, the lesbians.

Christina:

Should we tell those queers and lesbians exactly what all of our whole indealment is, like what we’re doing inside minute?

Drew:

Like exactly who we have been?

Christina:

Yeah.

Drew:

Yeah. I am able to go initially. I’m called Drew Gregory. I am a filmmaker and a writer for autostraddle.com, the internet site. I do some film and TV critique, and gender and dating writing, and private essays, and issues that merge all those situations. I’m trans I am also a lesbian, and that I feel just like i ought to add a third thing because everything is in threes. Just what else? Just what more?

Christina:

Things perform go on threes. You really have great hair.

Drew:

Oh, thank you.

Christina:

You’ve got wonderful hair, i do believe which is really important.

Drew:

Those are my identities. Trans. Lesbian. Great locks.

Christina:

Those are the identities.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

I’ve constantly asserted that you may be a female of locks knowledge. I have always mentioned that in regards to you.

Drew:

Yeah. This really is essential.

Christina:

Yeah. I will be Christina Tucker. I am additionally an author at Autostraddle, when you can believe it, just who writes about… oh, why don’t we only state whatever pops into their heads. That’s really the ambiance. Additionally a lesbian. I Am Black. I’m not sure who otherwise i’m.

Drew:

You additionally have great tresses.

Christina:

Ok last one, no, What i’m saying is, i believe this is certainly perhaps a podcast of tresses experience. Possibly that ought to be our very own tagline, “a podcast of locks experience.” I guess the people are probably thinking how exactly we reached this podcast particularly.

Drew:

Yes. And like every neat thing in daily life — and also by that What i’m saying is, extremely, not too many — it began as a highdea, as something which we sent you in a voice memo, large. And going back beyond that, we started delivering voice memos to one another in the beginning of the pandemic.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Okay. I am merely gonna inform you such as the thoughts that i’ve, and after that you can go after that and answer me, maybe not react to myself, whatever. I am just like, this is exactly myself getting immediate and clear. Okay. I am someone who… i really like discussing internet dating. It is among my major subjects of discussion. I have today stated my personal part.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Thanks a lot for stating your piece. Additionally, six minutes and 54 moments. Seriously, rather remarkable for you to get that out in that length of time. We never truly remember online dating. I believe, probably, an opposite sense of both you and your like to think of matchmaking and speak about dating and, like, be internet dating. I believe those tend to be my personal feelings. Really, i am delivering a Drew-level voice memo, a Drew-length sound memo today. I’m going to deliver this.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Yeah. I am aware that you do not think about dating, certainly not just as much as me, perhaps not as much as anyone else I understand?

Christina, in a voice memo:

I think about internet dating not as much as very nearly anybody I additionally learn. I’m not sure. We seriously do not know if I’ve came across anybody whon’t contemplate dating in so far as I perform or in so far as I do not, i suppose.

Drew:

We failed to actually know one another. We were co-workers at Autostraddle, but for those of you who don’t understand, Autostraddle is a virtual a workplace. It really is more of a Slack circumstance than a, we all appear to like lesbian headquarters combined with briefcases. That is not actually the vibe. We failed to truly know each other. After which, the beginning of pandemic, there seemed to be some DM sliding several relationship building many sound memoing. And we would constantly joke it was like we’d a podcast because we would deliver these extended voice memos. Following whenever I was stoned, I found myself like, “We actually should.” And here we are.

Christina:

Yeah. I am aware what you mean by large tactics never getting a tactics, but i really do have an extremely clear remembrance of hearing you say that and being like, “Yeah, definitely we have to have a podcast. The audience is doing each some other. Then invite other people engrossed?”

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. Usually my personal large a few ideas are things like, “Oh my personal God, there should be a TV program called

Get A Hold Of The Celebrity Twin,

for which you grab a high profile and then they meet an individual who — like a haphazard one who features their particular same birth information. Which also, is one of my personal large a few ideas that i do believe could well be fantastic. Its like…

Christina:

Yeah, to start with, TM, Drew Gregory, copyright.

Married Woman Looking for Man – fuckbook-dating.org

Drew:

That is a free of charge one. I really don’t proper care.

Christina:

No, it’s not. Drew, I’m acquiring you cash, i will be your money manager for the. Definitely not.

Drew:

I just want to see this stuff on earth. Basically, this is a dating podcast, a queer dating podcast. And another reason precisely why it is that topic, instead of numerous other things Christina and I also discuss, is because Everyone loves matchmaking and Christina cannot love internet dating and that is a fun small.

Christina:

A reduced amount of a fan.

Drew:

And dispute is truly… That’s where drama takes place. I do believe Socrates asserted that.

Christina:

Completely.

Drew:

And that’s why which is our topic. We’re going to protect all sorts of things.

Christina:

Yeah. We will discuss all the most readily useful queer matchmaking conundrums, matchmaking via Instagram.

Drew, in sound clip from future occurrence:

Correct me personally basically’m wrong, but I think Instagram is the best queer matchmaking app.

Shelli, in sound video from potential event:

A lot of percent. It will be the most useful.

Christina, in audio video from future episode:

I have heard this from other queers.

Shelli, in sound clip from future occurrence:

Completely. It provides you virtually all you need, unless somebody’s private. But even though you’re exclusive, infant, I’ll find out all about you, a method.

Drew, in audio video from future episode:

We’re going to speak about best sex we have had.

Dani, in audio video from future occurrence:

And then At long last requested like, “No, did you stepped on here getting gender? Tend to be we planning make love?” As well as were like, “Yeah, that’s what I wanted.” Also it had been like, the cat additionally the puppy had been inside the place there was actually cat-and-dog hair every where. And that I was like, definitely having an allergic response while we had been having sexual intercourse. The climax was, like, chef’s hug. It actually was an ideal experience.

Drew, in audio clip from future episode:

Wow.

Christina, in audio video from potential event:

We wonder whether it’s something towards hives that really included. Like slightly ‘jenesequa’ to this orgasm experience. It actually was like, “Ooh, i am some itchy additionally.” I wonder just how much that factors. We’re dealing with simple tips to separation with people.

Ro, in sound video from future event:

It feels like an extremely directly culture thing, also.

Christina, in sound clip from future occurrence:

Yeah.

Ro, in audio video from future occurrence:

No less than if you ask me, personally i think like… My personal directly friends are the ones who are more likely to state, “Well, bang that individual. That individual sucks,” if I finish a relationship with someone. While, queer people in living are the ones that happen to be more likely to maintain relationships with exes or perhaps see our exes in a holistic way.

Christina, in audio video from future event:

Anything you could think about in a matchmaking podcast, and that I’m maybe not planning rest to you personally individuals, also a lot more. Significantly more than you might ever before consider.

Drew, in sound video from potential episode:

When you are sexting via book, will it be like what you would like all of them… Are you performing role-plays of a scenario, like “you’re touching myself right now” or “If only you used to be coming in contact with,” what tight tend to be we in?

Kayla, in sound clip from potential occurrence:

Yeah, I found myself gonna ask alike question, actually, because that’s something which’s constantly interesting if you ask me, especially because many of us are article writers, also.

Christina, in audio clip from future episode:

I happened to be planning state, several authors like, “What tense are we working?”

Kayla, in sound video from future occurrence:

Perspective.

Christina, in sound video from potential occurrence:

It is a close third, what exactly is going on here?

Kayla, in sound clip from future event:

Like, purely 2nd?

Drew:

Discover finished . about queer individuals. Let me tell you.

Christina:

Okay. Pull-up a chair. Introducing your own TED Talk. Why don’t we go-off.

Drew:

We numerous experiences and are a lot more fascinating. Only whenever I consider the manner in which straight men and women explore online dating, it is therefore boring. And I also think so typically, queer matchmaking conversations are extensions of mainstream internet dating discourse, but incorporating things like “coming-out” and “first time you are with a blah, blah, blah.” It’s like — there’s much more nuance in so many more… Its so exciting. Just what a world that it’s, queer sex and queer relationship.

Christina:

We have now used such as the extremely classic type boring construction of heterosexual relationship and extremely brought it into another world, filled up with extended discussions and running all of our thoughts. It’s amazing work.

Drew:

Yeah. I’m truly excited and I wish you all tend to be thrilled, because our very first event comes out weekly from nowadays following, there will end up being brand-new attacks every Wednesday.

Christina:

It’s been 1 week and soon you’ll hear all of our podcast. Nailed it. Crushed it. Yeah. Every Wednesday, you’ll not only get

To L and Back

on Mondays, you’ll get

Hold Off, Is It A Romantic Date?

on Wednesdays.

Drew:

And I co-host both, so if you hate me personally, i assume you aren’t listening to Autostraddle podcasts. Assuming you will do like me, you’re pleasant.

Christina:

Additionally, unless you like Drew, mature, is exactly what i need to say.

Drew:

I’m not for all, I am ok with that. I think it’s probably best that you not for everybody.

Christina:

Certain. In my opinion which is completely reasonable. And possibly a subject we’re able to talk about on one of our own potential periods. What happens if you are maybe not for everybody? I loved that I moved like, “Ooh, let us get this all-inclusive.” What are the results when you, we, as individuals. You said, let us carry out a complete event about, “imagine if I’m not for all?”

Drew:

Really, it really is Leo season and I’m a Leo climbing and that I decided that makes it about myself. 00:09:54].

Christina:

As am I. thank-you really.

Drew:

We are double Leo risings about this podcast, and that is element of the reason why it will be so good. You’ll listen to united states anywhere you hear your own podcast. It will likely be a pretty common podcast circumstance. Nothing fancy, no riddles needed to be solved to find the event, it will likely be immediately individually.

Christina:

Simply not the supervisor of you. There’s lots of solutions, perform what you would.

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Okay. Well, available all of us on Twitter and Instagram at @waitisthisadate. And you will e-mail united states at waitisthisadate@gmail.com. And find me on Twitter and Instagram and TikTok at @draw_gregory, my personal title in our tight.

Christina:

We have checked your social networking addresses often and I also have not, until this time, noticed it is “draw.” Wow.

Drew:

Yeah. Well that’s the thing, Drew was actually used and I do not know how… Oh, I was matchmaking someone which actually… Actually this individual just who we dated, i did not get a large number off that commitment, except I said this concept and she believed it had been thus amusing, like as well funny, seriously, like a portion of the issue, In my opinion possibly. And I was encouraged to get it done, and then it’s just stuck.

Christina:

Wow.

Drew:

But yeah. Occasionally people think i am a visual singer and also you know what, i enjoy end up being thought of by doing this, but i cannot, Really don’t really have design abilities.

Christina:

I am going to state there is nothing much more about brand name for Drew than getting love, “Oh, that is the Twitter handle.” While getting love, “really, it is a funny story about matchmaking.”

Drew:

Yes, precisely.

Christina:

Great.

Drew:

What exactly are your private handles, and are they attached to your romantic life?

Christina:

Simply, no. You’ll find me personally at @c_gracet on twitter.com, the web site. Just in case you intend to discover myself on Instagram, you are able to do thus, at @christina_gracet. And it is truly courageous of me to understand my own Instagram handle.

Drew:

Incredible work.

Christina:

Many thanks plenty.

Drew:

It is usually a delight to speak with both you and i am thus thrilled to jump into most of these exciting subjects. And also for our very own listeners to get to know united states a little bit much better to get to… In my opinion we are able to all, i believe we’re all browsing learn with this quest.

Christina:

I hope therefore. I enrolled in discovering.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

Like a school course of podcasts. That made it appear to be a total bummer. Thus sorry.

Drew:

I’m not sure. I had some excellent college courses.

Christina:

Certainly, Used To Do too, but I Really Don’t need to make anyone—

Drew:

Can you imagine how incredible it would be should you turned up your school class and either of us was your teacher, or we coached a category with each other, that’d function as the hottest thing previously. Men And Women would-be like…

Christina:

Preferred admission around. Enrollment is actually from the data.

Drew:

Oh, we should have an episode which is centered on hot professors. That isn’t related.

Christina:

That’s not maybe not appropriate. We’ll claim that.

Drew:

Sure, sure. Personally I think like there may be — you should make it a little wider, but who knows? Who knows exactly what will take the long run, and that is truly exciting. And you understand who’ll know? You, listener, as soon as you tune in every Wednesday.

Christina:

You listen in and also you crucially hit that old subscribe switch and go out with us every Wednesday and have your self, “what exactly is a night out together?”

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. That delivers me personally to… I am not sure. I happened to be merely questioning… ended up being this a night out together?

Christina:

Drew, no. That is a podcast truck.

Drew:

Oh, cool. Okay. Great. Okay. I think i am having the hang of it while understand what’s great, would be that because I inquired, today I’m sure, nowadays in direct interaction is truly exactly what it’s all about.

Christina:

Expected and answered. The CT motto.

Drew:

Then one that a lot of people in all of our community could find out. And then wewill, ideally, this is actually a site. This might be a reduced amount of a podcast and more of a political act.

Christina:

Wow. I wasn’t familiar with that, but i am happy to understand that we are having both a podcast and a political work. A couple of my personal favorite things. A couple of my personal favorite factors to begin with P, podcasts and political functions.

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Christina, in a voice memo:

I do believe my personal impulse is when i love one and I also would like them inside my existence, i understand the simplest way in my situation to keep them in my life is to ensure they are a buddy.

Drew, in a voice memo:

I’m merely thus grateful that individuals’ve become this type of close friends. Just in case of quarantine, that is what occurred, we made this unique brand-new friend, exactly who I like dearly and I’m just pleased to speak with you usually, like exactly what a present.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Dammit. I got a thought and it went away. It absolutely was honestly most likely actually brilliant.